by emil_c » Thu Oct 20, 2005 11:35 pm
de la Loosh cu dragoste….
The Special Mother
by Erma Bombeck
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social
pressures and a couple by habit.
This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.
Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for
propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs
His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
"Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint...give her Gerard. He's used to
profanity."
"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron saint, Cecelia."
"Rutledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint, Matthew."
Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped
child."
The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She's so happy."
"Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who
does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of
self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll
handle it."
"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that
is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to
give her has her own world. She has to make her live in her world and
that's not going to be easy."
"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter,
I can fix that. This one is perfect - she has just enough selfishness." The
angel gasps - "selfishness? is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally,
she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child
less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied.
She will never take for granted a 'spoken word'". She will consider a
step" ordinary. When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will
be present at a miracle, and will know it!"
"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty,
prejudice....and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone.
I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she
is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side".
"And what about her Patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in
mid-air.
God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."
traducere:
Mama Specială
de Erma Bombeck
Cele mai multe femei devin mame accidental, altele vor, puţine datorită presiunii
sociale şi câteva din obişnuinţă.
Anul acesta aproape 100 000 de femei vor deveni mame ale unor copii handicapaţi.
V-aţi pus vreodată întrebarea cum sunt alese mamele copiilor handicapaţi?
Eu L-am vizualizat cumva pe Dumnezeu privind în jos spre Pământ şi alegânu-Şi instrumentele
de procreaţie cu multă grijă şi prudenţă. El se uită şi Îşi instruieşte
îngerii care notează într-un registru uriaş.
"Armstrong, Beth; băiat. Sfânt protector...dă i-l pe Gherasim. El e obişnuit cu
blasfemia."
"Forrest, Marjorie; fiică. Sfânt protector, Cecilia."
"Rutledge, Carrie; gemeni. Sfânt protector, Matei."
La sfârşit El dă un nume unui înger şi zâmbeşte, "Dă acesteia un copil
handicapat"
Îngerul e curios. "De ce tocmai aceasta Dumnezeule? E atât de fericită."
"Întocmai," zâmbeşte Dumnezeu, "Aş putea da un copil handicapat unei mame care
nu ştie să râdă? Aceasta ar fi crud."
"Dar are ea răbdare?" întrebă îngerul.
"Nu o vreau cu prea multă răbdare căci astfel s-ar îneca într-un ocean de
auto-compătimire şi disperare. Odată cu prelucrarea şocului şi a resentimentului, ea
se va descurca."
"Am privit-o azi. Ea are acea conştiinţă de sine şi independenţă,
atât de rare şi de necesare la o mamă. Ştii, copilul pe care-l voi da
ei are propria sa lume. Ea va trebui să se transpună în viaţa lui şi
aceasta nu-i va fi uşor."
"Dar, Dumnezeule, cred că ea nici nu crede în Tine." Dumnezeu zâmbeşte, "Nu contează,
pot să repar aceasta. Aceasta este perfectă – are destul egoism."
Îngerul comentează - "egoism? e cumva o virtute?"
Dumnezeu dă din cap. "Dacă nu se poate separa din când în când de copil,
nu va supravieţui niciodată. Da, iată o femeie pe care o voi binecuvânta cu un copil
mai puţin perfect. Încă nu-şi dă seama, dar va fi invidiată.
Pentru ea nu va fi firesc niciodată un ‘cuvânt rostit’. Ea va considera ‘un pas’
ca fiind firesc. Când copilul ei va spune 'Mama' pentru prima dată, ea va
trăi un miracol, şi va şti aceasta!"
"Îi voi permite să vadă clar lucrurile pe care le văd...ignoranţă, cruzime,
prejudecată....şi-i voi permite să se ridice peste acestea. Nu va fi niciodată singură.
Eu voi fi lângă ea în fiecare minut din fiecare zi din viaţa ei, deoarece ea
Îmi face lucrarea ca şi cum ar fi aici la sânul Meu ".
"Şi cum rămâne cu Sfântul protector?" întrebă îngerul, cu condeiul ridicat în
aer.
Dumnezeu zâmbeşte, "Oglinda va fi de ajuns."
...şi-n maghiară...
fordítás:
A Kivételes Anya
írta Erma Bombeck
A legtöbb nő véletlenül lesz anya, van aki akarja, kevesen a társadalom
nyomására és egy páran megszokásbol.
Idén majdnem 100 000 asszony lesz egy fogyatékos gyermek annya.
Feltette vajon a kérdést, hogy vannak kiválasztva a fogyatékos-gyermek anyák?
Én elképzeltem valahogy Istent amint lenéz a Földre és nagy gondal és elővigyázattal megválasztja az elörehaladás eszközeit. Ő szétnéz és utasítja angyalait, akik egy óriás regiszterbe jegyzetelnek.
"Armstrong, Beth; kisfiju. Védőszent…add neki Gedeont. Ő megszokta a
szentségtörést. "
"Forrest, Marjorie; kislány. Védőszent, Cecil. "
"Rutledge, Carrie; ikrek. Védőszent, Mátyás. "
Legutoljára átad egy nevet egy angyalnak és rámosolyog, "Adj neki egy fogyatékos gyermeket. "
Az angyal kiváncsi. "Miért pont neki, Uram? Ő annyira boldog. "
"Pontosan, " mosolyog az Úr, "hát adhatnék egy fogyatékos gyermeket egy anyának, ki nem ismeri a nevetést? Ez kegyetlen lenne. "
"De van-e elég türelme? " kérdezi az angyal.
"Nem akarom, hogy túl sok türelme legyen mert az elsűllyesztené az
önsajnálat és kétsegbeesés tengerébe. Ahogy az ijedség és a neheztelés megszünik, meg tud birkózni vele. "
"Megnéztem ma. Megvan az az önérzete és függetlensége, mely oly
ritka és szükséges egy anyánál. Tudod, a gyermek akit majd adok neki
a saját világában él. Majd meg kell tanulja, hogy az ő világában éljen és
ez nem lesz könnyü. "
"De Uram, azt hiszem ő nem is hisz Benned. " az Úr mosolyog, "Nem számit, ezt el tudom intézni. Ez az egy tökéletes – pont eléggé önző. "
Az angyalnak elakad a lélegzete - " önző? ez talán erény? "
Az Úr bólint. "Ha nem tudná magát egyszer-egyszer félretenni gyermekétől, sose élné túl. Igen, itt van egy asszony akit megáldok egy kevésbé tökéletes gyermekkel. Még nem fogja fel, de majd irigyelni fogják. Neki sose lesz természetes egy 'kimondott szó'. Neki az 'egy
lépés' lesz a szokásos. Mikor gyermeke először fogja mondani, hogy 'Mama', ő egy csoda tanuja lesz és fogja tudni ezt!"
"Meg fogom engedni neki, hogy tisztán lássa a dolgokat miket én látok…tudatlanság, kegyetlenség, előítélet…és megengedem, hogy felülemelkedjen rajtuk. Sose lesz egyedül. Minden nap minden percébe mellette leszek, mert ő az Én dolgomat végzi, mint ahogy itt lenne Mellettem".
"És ki lesz a Védőszentje?" kérdi az angyal, a tollát
megálítván a magasban.
Isten mosolyog, "Neki egy tükör elég lesz."
Andrei – n. 12.06.2000
Autism usor, atipic (sau nu)